Strap-on sex can be an exciting and intimate experience for lesbian couples who want to explore new sexual sensations. However, for those who are new to this type of play, it can be intimidating and overwhelming. If you and your partner want to try strap-on sex for the first time but don’t know where to begin, first of all, congratulations on your decision to explore this fun new activity together! Strap-on sex can be an intensely pleasurable experience for lesbian couples when done safely and consensually. Here are some tips to get you started:

Choose Your Equipment

Select a harness and dildo that suits your needs and comfort level. Start with a beginner’s set which typically has an adjustable strap-on harness and slim dildo. You can work your way up to more advanced options over time as you gain experience. Ensure any dildos you use are specifically designed for strap-on sex and are body-safe.

Consider a strapless strap-on double dildo. These provide stimulation for both partners at once without the need for a harness. Strapless options directly stimulate the wearer’s G-spot and clitoris while also pleasuring the receiving partner. They take more practice but can lead to blended orgasms and greater intimacy due to the closeness of your bodies.

Establish Consent and Comfort

Have an open conversation with your partner about any interests or hesitations you both have regarding strap-on sex. Discuss what you each consent to, and establish a safe word in case anyone becomes uncomfortable during your experience. Go slowly, communicate frequently and focus on mutual pleasure and exploration.

Focus on Foreplay

Spend plenty of time engaging in foreplay before any strap-on penetration. Focus on manual sex, kissing, teasing and general full-body caressing. This will enhance arousal and ensure the receiving partner’s muscles relax, making penetration easy and enjoyable. Use lubricant to minimize any discomfort.

Find Your Rhythm

Once the dildo has been gently inserted, start slowly with shallow thrusts so both partners can get accustomed to the new sensations. Rock your hips and grind against your partner as they direct you to the rhythm and depth they enjoy. Wrap your arms around them or hold their thighs to connect your bodies as you find a tempo you both love.

It’s important to remember that strap-on sex is about pleasure and exploration, not performance. Don’t put too much pressure on yourselves to perform a certain way or achieve specific results. Be open-minded, playful, and willing to try new things. Switching roles and taking turns with the strap-on can also add variety and excitement to your play.

After you’ve finished, make sure to clean and sanitize your equipment thoroughly. This will help prevent the spread of bacteria and ensure that your next experience is just as safe and enjoyable.

Most of all – have fun and laugh with your partner! Strap-on sex should be an enjoyable new experience for both of you. Stay present in the moment, gaze into your lover’s eyes and focus on the passion you share. With regular practice, communication, preparation, and a willingness to experiment,  you’ll be having orgasmic strap-on encounters in no time. Enjoy this new chapter of intimacy with your partner!